Sounds strange, right? You’re still you.
Well of course I am silly! Who else would I be? The voice in my head replies. (The voice in my head is an elderly British woman, I imagine her rapping me on the knuckles with her cane to make her point heard.)
But here’s the thing, in the face of major choices, we tend to forget that we are still ourselves.
Real life examples of this that I have heard from my friends and clients:
- If you’re a constant saver, you’re still going to be frugal even if you earn more money. You’re not going to turn into a spendthrift overnight. You’re still you.
- If you’re a planner, you’re going to keep making plans, even if they change half-way through. You’re still you.
- If you are someone who is open and honest, you’ll still be that way if you start dating someone new. You’re still you.
It seems simple, but so many people get so freaked out by major choices they need to make, that they start projecting crazy scenarios around them.
I heard this from a friend the other day:
“If I get this new job and start making more money, I’ll end up spending so much” – Really? I asked. Is that true or just a crazy freaked out thing your head is telling you? Because you’re still you. And you are an excellent money manager.
In the face of big decisions, upheavals, changes, opportunities, sometimes we get freaked out. Sometimes we spin worst case scenarios, that our brains latch onto. All of a sudden, those crazy scenarios are running the show, and you’re consumed with anxiety and ‘what-ifs’ about your life.
Don’t forget. Don’t let the crazy stories and ‘what-ifs’ run the show. You’re still you.
Don’t let fear control you.